There’s a time and a place.
But I am somewhere in between the two. Never really fitting where I am, but stuck at the acknowledgement that things could somehow be different. That they SHOULD somehow be different.
I didn’t think my mid to late 20s would look like the absolute crazy show it has, yet I digress. There’s really no argument to be had. Life will be the way it is.
I will be turning 28 this year and while I know I still have plenty of time, I do find it important to talk about the vast changes that take place in such small intervals of time. It feels like just yesterday I was 16 and everyone told me I had plenty of time to figure out where I was going and what I was doing. This has been true but oh so wrong. I promise I blinked once and I was turning 21…then 25…now 28 and soon to be 30.
During all of these intervals and milestones – the moments between even- there have been so many accomplishments and even more failures. That’s lesson one I learned. Life is more about losing and learning what to do with that loss rather than about winning and doing everything the way it was always assumed it should/would be completed. I think this concept was scary for me when I was younger and probably is for most people. I also believe it’s more normal than people would like to admit. The old days have passed. You know- the ones our grandparents talked about with the nuclear family and traditional dynamics that came with it. Married by early 20s and kids by mid 20s is looking more like married by early 30s and kids shortly thereafter. And this is okay! It is also okay if your life sounds nothing like either of these options. The more we continue to normalize individual lifestyles, the more we can have honest conversations about the bigger and probably more scary topics of life. I wish someone had been so honest to tell me that while I had “plenty of time”, I would also continue to have less and less. And that it’s important to understand this idea of vast changes in small intervals of time.
All of this just to say that I am turning 30 in the next couple of years, and while I may not be where I feel I should be (or at least 16 year old me thought I would be), I can also look back and say I am not in the places I feared the most either. I am definitely somewhere in between, but maybe that’s good because I still have so much to learn and so many experiences. I hope to be someone in this life who normalizes individual lifestyles and can reassure you all that it’s truly going to be okay. I promise. 🙂
Positive vibes. ❤
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